What is success?

Before I came into design I used to think that success was something that I needed to achieve by doing more and by meeting societal standards. I thought that I would be successful when I made a lot of money or when others would look at me and say “you’re so successful” - maybe that would be because of my job or status or home. I dunno.

And of course I strived for more. More of the external. More proof that I was successful.

I’ve been in my Human Design experiment for 3 years now and it’s only the past few months where I’ve truly understood what success is for me as a Projector. And you know, I find it in really really small things.

I find it in moments of time. I find it in what I see. I find it in what I feel. And rarely do I find it in the things that society has led us to believe we should.

I mean I have no home, no car, not many belongings, yet I feel successful.

I’ve done a lot of things in my life that were from a place of needing to be seen as successful. Needing to prove myself to the world, to myself? Yet now I understand the feeling of success, I can recognise why the feeling was not something I experienced regularly.

For me, success is tiny pockets in time where I feel deep gratitude, connection, peace, stillness, fun, intellect.

For me success is sitting listening to the birds whilst sipping my coffee undisturbed.

For me success is seeing my nephew laugh at something really silly. 

For me success is knowing I can live wherever I want, whenever I want.

For me success is seeing friends and others do really well and see their happiness.

For me success is being recognised when I share my gifts.

For me success is watching the chickens this morning love the fact that I gave them rice as a treat.

For me success is meeting the eye of another and having a non verbal exchange that we both felt.

For me success is having less and less stuff.

For me success is understanding something I’ve been curious about.

For me success is beautiful things like art, plants, interiors, websites.

For me success is the first upward dog in my Yoga flow.

For me success is meeting a random person in a random place and just getting one another.

For me success is bliss.

When I realised success can be in so many things (none of which we were told) then my life opened up, I felt more resonance with what it was to be me, to be part of this world, to be connected.